A mother-daughter relationship is precious and sometimes precarious. Nothing helps strengthen the bonds between a mother and daughter than participating in activities shoulder-to-shoulder and sharing new experiences. Mother daughter trips are a perfect way to accomplish both — and those long hours of travel time can be the perfect way to enjoy quality time and get even a recalcitrant teen to open up.
I started taking mother daughter day trips with my girl when she was very young and we began lengthening those to mother daughter vacations when she was six or seven. Over the years, our annual mother daughter getaways have become a treasured tradition.
This precious time together has become absolutely priceless and she moves through her teenage years. Over the years, we have tried all sorts of trips (see my tips for planning a mother daughter trip) and each of them has hit home at various stages of her growth. I wanted to share a few of our favorites to give you mother daughter trip ideas to use in your own planning.
6 Best Mother Daughter Trips
I understand that sometimes it is hard to pull off a family vacation, let only a one-on-one trip. It is definitely easier for me because I only have one child. But I still think it is worth the effort, even if it can’t happen every year. These trips build a foundation for a strong relationship even when your daughter leaves home and goes off on her own.
1. The Adventure Trip
Teens love to be active and often seek thrills that we as moms would rather avoid. But I can tell you from experience that jumping in and adventuring together will gain you respect, empower you both, and generate stories for years to come.
Even if your trip isn’t ALL about adventure, it is easy to build a few adventurous activities into your trip. That can be paddle boarding, kayaking, horseback riding, zip lining, or tree top adventure courses.
Some of our favorite adventures include:
- White water rafting in Oregon
- Rock climbing in Smith Rock State Park in Central Oregon (Central Oregon is a great place for adventure — hiking, caving, rafting, climbing, tubing, and more.)
- Hiking in the Canadian Rockies (a trip that also included horseback riding and the exhilarating day climbing the Via Ferrata on Mount Norquay.)
- Hiking and horseback riding in the Black Hills and Badlands National Park in South Dakota
2. The Wildlife Trip
Tweens tend to be animal lovers and get excited about up close and personal animal encounters. We are both animal lovers and we have a lot of bucket list dreams that involve polar bears, pandas, and penguins.
While some of those dreams are a little inaccessible on the current budget, it is easy to build in wildlife sightings or animal experiences into a mother daughter trip.
For example, after reading the book Misty of Chincoteague together for a mother-daughter book club, I figured that a mother-daughter trip to see the wild ponies of Chincoteague would be a perfect idea. We huddled together against the cold wind and spray of the water on our boat ride around the island, but soon we were both beaming when we spied our first pony herds.
Some of our favorite wildlife trips include:
- Wildlife viewing in Yellowstone National Park
- Watching the bison, burros, and prairie dogs in the Black Hills, SD
- Bear watching cruise excursion in Alaska
- Dude ranch vacation
- Drive through safaris and zoos
3. The Cultural Trip
If you are looking for something more adventurous, that also wraps in culture, education, and yes some wildlife (in the form of a llama hike!), I would encourage you to look at GOOD Travel. This responsible travel company is founded by a mom and they run mother-daughter trips to Peru each summer. I’m actually planning on doing one in 2021 if you want to join me!
Every aspect of the trip – from the hotels to the llama hikes to the chocolate making – has been designed to ensure that the local community, economy and environment benefit from your visit. So it is a great way to have an amazing bonding experience (with other moms and daughters) in a positive way.
I think this would be perfect for a big birthday or moving up from grade school to middle school or middle school to high school. If you sign up, be sure to note that you were referred by WE3TRAVEL (my affiliate code) and you will receive a 10% discount.
4. The Big City Trip
If wildlife and adventure aren’t your thing, maybe a mother daughter weekend getaway to a big city — like New York City, Los Angeles, or San Francisco for shopping, eating, and visiting the theater and museums is more your deal. These trips are great for all ages and can even become an annual tradition as most cities have so much to offer and interests change as your daughter gets older.
One of our first mother daughter getaways was to Baltimore, Maryland. Visiting a new city gives you a chance to explore together and share new experiences. We had a very special time wandering the city streets together and it allowed her a more active role in choosing which attractions and restaurants we visited.
I know that not only have these trips given us fun memories together, but it has also taught her skills about navigating a city, using public transportation, and how to keep yourself safe.
Some of our favorite U.S. cities to visit include:
- Nashville – music, murals, and food
- Atlanta – food, Coke, Aquarium, and history
- Milwaukee – festivals, art, and lakeside fun
- Minneapolis – Prince, shopping, art, and waterfalls
- Chicago – theater, views, and museums
- Philadelphia – history, zoo, and cheesesteaks
5. The Educational Trip
We spend a lot of time teaching our kids, but when you have an opportunity to learn together you are both on the same level and have another shared experience to reference and discuss.
We have taken a lot of educational trips together visiting historical sites, museums, and living history museums. Not every trip is themed around an educational topic, some just include an activity. But others, like our Civil Rights road trip, have been designed for a purpose and had a profound impact.
I think ages 8-14 is ideal for this type of trip. Some of our favorite educational destinations include:
- Colonial Williamsburg and Jamestown (paired with a fun day at Water Country USA)
- Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello in Charlottesville, Virginia
- Gettysburg including the National Battlefield — this was one of the first times that I could see her really taking in and processing everything that we learned and observed the impact that it had
- Memphis including a African American History tour and visiting the National Civil Rights Museum
6. The Spa Trip
I thought spa resorts would require my daughter to be sixteen (and some do), but these days you can find spas that offer services for tweens and teens — from chocolate pedicures, blow outs, or massages for moms and daughters.
I’ll never forget her dreamy smile after her first massage! What a privilege to share this fun “first” with her. There have been a few times where we have added a spa experience to our trip, and I can’t wait to plan another spa getaway. I’m pretty sure I’ll be able to bribe her to go on a mother daughter spa weekend even when she has moved out!
Our favorite spa experiences have been at:
- Sierra Grande in Truth & Consequences, New Mexico
- The Beach Plum Spa at the John Carver Inn in Plymouth, Massachusetts
These trips have created a bank full of cherished memories — for both of us! Even though planning a mother daughter getaway with your tween or teen daughter may sound daunting or impossible, I encourage you to give it a try. Start with a day trip or shared experience and go from there.
Need more ideas? What about a cooking class, TV or movie location tour, food themed trip, attending a sporting event, going to a musical performance, or something else that grabs her interest. The best mother daughter vacations are ones where she has a say in what you do.
I would love to hear your ideas, suggestions, and experiences. Join our private travel with teens Facebook group!